I live in a mixed unit building in a chill neighborhood in Brooklyn - there’s two apartments and a salon on the first floor. I like it, the salon owner is sweet and my neighbors - an engaged couple - are super cool (and more importantly, quiet).
I was headed out my apartment the other day and ran into one of my neighbors in the vestibule as she was heading in. We chatted about the weather, plans for the weekend, and she also let me know her and her fiancée are moving out. Where she works is just way too far from where she live and the commute is killing her. So they decided to move to a close neighborhood. Makes sense to me.
Then she starts telling me about the building she’s moving to. A beautiful high-rise, central air, doorman, laundry in the unit (for those of you who do not live in NYC - this is a big deal).
And I was super happy for her, she was pumped their moving to a new hot spot, so I was pumped too. Dope for them.
But I can’t lie - I got a touch jealous she’s leaving to a high rise. I mean I like my neighborhood and I like my apartment, and the rent is cheap so I really can’t complain.
Buuuuuuut…having central air would be nice. Oh and laundry in my unit would be a game changer. A doorman so I never miss packages? Sign me up. A rooftop with dope views of NYC. Maaaaannn. I want that
I want to live in a high rise too!
Hold Up - Wait a Minute
I had to catch myself.
I just quit my job to work on Snowball full time. As a matter of fact - I used to live in a high rise! I moved so I can save money to fund Snowball so I can do exactly this - work on it full time!
Not many people can quit their job to work on something full time. I chose to move from the fancy apartment to this building deeper in Brooklyn so I can save money to get Snowball going. That’s the path I chose. I’m in a dope position and should be happy about it. And when I look around at the choices in my life - I am. I may not be in the high rise but I'm where I want, and chose to be at. A place where I fill this is best for me.
We all got good things going on, maybe we lose sight of it from time to time especially when we see others doing so well.
It’s easy to look at others and want what they have and it’s just as easy to forget we have positive things going on in our life.
It was easy for me to see my neighbors moving to the high rise and want that too. I had to check myself and look at my life and realize I have good things going on as well - just different.
The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It
Everyone has their own path, their own journey filled with ups, downs, twists and turns. And it's all on your time, not someone else's. So when you're having ups, someone else maybe having downs...and vice versa.
I put in the work and made certain choices and sacrifices to be in the position I’m in. Working on Snowball full time was a goal of mine and my actions lined up to my goal. That may mean I'm not living in a high-rise but I'm where I want to be. I could have chased more money, promotions at work, taken vacations because my friends and other coworkers were all doing so.
And it was tempting - seeing my friends on Instagram going on vacations made me want to go. Seeing my friends hustle a little harder getting promotions made me want to do the same - except I chose to spend that extra hustle time on Snowball.
It was tough watching my friends earn more while I’m spending money buying early versions of Snowball prototypes and spinning up my website even though I had no customers. But it was the path I chose. It my grass and I watered my grass and didn’t watch others water theirs.
And even with my neighbors. No one came by and said “hey here’s an amazing high rise for you, all for free!” They financially planned and took the right steps to make sure to find they can comfortably afford it and made a decision that worked for both of them. It wasn’t just given. They took the time to plan, take the right actions, and do it right. They watered their grass.
And in all these cases there’s pros and cons. Yeah my friends are making more but they don’t like the work they are doing. They always tell me they wish they were doing something like me.
My neighbors new place isn’t in the heart of the city it’s still a ways out so they have a decent commute to work. Growing Snowball looks cool from the outside (and it is) but it comes with a long slow grind especially in the early days when there were no customers.
No one has it all figured out. No on has everything perfect.
The saying goes the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. If you’re too busy looking at other people’s grass and not watering yours than of course it’s always going to be greener.
Take care of your grass - understand what you want and take the right actions that line up to what you want to achieve and not chase what other people are doing.